I have this friend, I'll call her "C", who I've been friends with for a while. She's fun, upbeat, and into the same kind of things as me. We're both Buffy fans, both writers, and have another friend in common.
Trouble is, to me, friends means actually talking or seeing each other on occassion. She's my age, she lives in her parents house rent free, she has a new job and works constantly not because she likes it but because I think it's a power trip, and not that this matters to me, but I think it does from a cultural standpoint for what follows - she's Korean.
She went through this rebel phase where she hated her parents and their hold on her through their money (which they dangle over her quite frequently). Now, she's allowing her mother to hire Korean matchmakers for her - at her mom's expense (I'm sure her mom is eating this up after all the caucasions "C" has dated), lets her mom "screen" the candidates (isn't that the point of a matchmaker?) and now hopes to be married by next year to a nice Korean boy who she'll have nothing in common with except that her mother likes him. I've had a lot of friends marry for convenience and not love - can that be right? Her mother is also taking her to salon appointments to get the "proper" makeup and hair extensions. It's like watching "Mulan" except in a weird, modern way.
Last year, she was talking of finishing some writing projects, never wanted to marry a Korean boy, wanted to get her own place (um, yes, please), possibly start a magnet school, etc. Now, her social circle consists of her parents, with no contact really with former friends, etc. I'm really worried about her, and yes, a bit selfishly, worried about losing a friend. I don't know if I can tell her this, or if I even should.
Lighter, end note: Are there any matchmaker services that keep a steady stream of millionaire dates coming in for little southern white girls like me? Google? Anyone?